WHY DIVORCE

Children of God should be a living example to people of the world but my heart bleeds when I see believers copying the unfruitful approach of the unbelievers towards marriage. Couples are not permitted to divorce if only we understand the power of marriage.

People easily forget all the kissing! Adam said a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife. You can read Genesis chapter two verse twenty-four. The last time I checked other versions of the Bible, instead of the word ‘cleave’, it was written as ‘join’. Ask everyone who went through a divorce; there is something about their lives connecting them back to themselves. Pride and self-centeredness will not allow them to humble themselves. 

However, you should understand you were not brought up under the same earthly parental leadership. Our upbringing is different. When we take time and commit to learning from ourselves whilst allowing God's grace to guide our options and decisions, we will see ourselves improve better than good. 

I have told my wife three consecutive times that I want a divorce in our first five years. The third time, the Holy Spirit rebuked me. And it took my wife almost four weeks to let go! Folks, your marriage is your school, and your first quality is patience. If you’re not a patient person reading this book, whether you are married or single, I will advise you to pray that God should give you the fruit of the spirit called patience. 

We are expected to cleave in marriage not to kiss because when you leave, you will always remember to detach it. This means part of your flesh will be destroyed. If this is done to you, you will not care to file for divorce. People only consider the physical aspect of things. Maybe the money and properties they will lose to their spouse, not minding spiritual damages. 

To withdraw your divorce document and reunite with your spouse, you must put your spouse first in your plan. No matter how hurtful and painful you feel, scripture tells us that love covers multitudes of sins or wrongs. The value we give to others will make us most valuable. 

You should have family alter and covenant time with the LORD and your spouse. Remember these battles against marriage didn’t just begin today, it’s been over six thousand years ago. We can only overcome by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Stand against all the hate in your mind towards your spouse, and declare the word of God against it. Your declaration is your possession.  

Share the word of God with your children. Also, keep time with yourself and exclude your children. Both of you should make notes from your study. This is a great sacrifice you’re putting into your marriage. Always make your spouse your number one priority. Never allow anyone to treat your spouse like a second-class citizen.  

Trust in the Lord to build you better than you can help yourself. God loves fellowship with marriages. Scripture tells us that he visited Adam in the cool of the day to fellowship with them. Your marriage is not a failure but you, neither is your marriage a success but you, why? You allow God to pass through you to bless other homes.  

On your family altar, please agree to lift other couples into the hands of God for perfection.