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Firstly, let’s look into the meaning of domestic violence in relation to marriage, we are referring to what goes on in a particular home called “Family”. Violence is the use of a word or action in a disordered manner to the point of harmful or hurting or inflicting injuries on the psyche of the victim. This “Domestic Violence” (Violence Abuse) simply means a pattern of behavior or aggression in any relationship within the home, typically involving the abuse of a spouse or even children.  

“Domestic Violence” is a typical challenge all over the world, which cut across all ethnicity, ages, gender, religion, beliefs, and sexual orientations in relationships. 

Henceforth, people of all socio-economic backgrounds and levels of education are not immune to domestic violence. 

TYPES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN MARRIAGES 

  • Physical violence 
  • Verbal violence 
  • Emotional violence 
  • Spiritual violence 
  • Financial violence 
  • Psychological 
  • Workplace
  • Technological violence 
  • Sexual violence 

PHYSICAL VIOLENCE: This is a situation whereby the party involved is exerting control over another with physical force such as hitting, punching, slapping, kicking, or use of weapons.  

VERBAL VIOLENCE: This is an exchange of words between the abusers, using insulting, abusive language, and so on. Eph. 4:29-32 

EMOTIONAL VIOLENCE: This involves non-physical behavior that belittles another person - making one feel inferior, ashamed, or degraded affects the emotion of the victims.  

SPIRITUAL VIOLENCE: This has to do with religion - some use spiritual beliefs to manipulate, dominate or control the victim of making ridicule their beliefs, or bullying another on his or her belief.  

FINANCIAL VIOLENCE: A larger percentage of home experience this form of violence. It can include withholding money or money control when a spouse isn’t included in financial decisions - or when a user uses his or her power or influence to control others’ finances e. g showing a receipt for expenses, or not having access to liquid cash e.t.c 

PSYCHOLOGICAL VIOLENCE: In the private sphere, psychological violence includes threatening conduct which may lack physical or verbal for example - action referring to former acts of violence, purposed ignorance and neglects of spouse or children. 

WORKPLACE VIOLENCE: This is an act of violence ranging from verbal to physical abuse diverted toward a person at work, harassing or intimidating, or threatening one at work. 

TECHNOLOGICAL VIOLENCE: This is the misuse of technology such as social media to abuse others. E.g. using social media to send hurting messages via emails, WhatsApp, ignoring spouse calls, and checking others in search of any secret to make trouble. 

CAUSES/SIGNS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (Gal. 5:19-22)

  • Being jealous of your friends or time spent away from your partner.
  • Embarrassing or body shaming.
  • Making one partner or the other feel guilty for all the problems in the relationship.
  • Preventing one from working so as to control all financial decisions.
  • Intentionally damaging one’s property
  • Threatening violence against one another.
  • The Wide age difference between partners
  • When only one partner (especially the woman) is the breadwinner of the family.
  • Intimidating partner physically, especially with weapons. 
  • Pressuring a partner to have sex when he or she doesn’t want to. 

REASONS WHY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS ON THE RISE IN CHRISTENDOM (2 Tim. 3:1-8)

  • Many believe that divorcees will not make heaven
  • Divorcees are sometimes not allowed to hold certain offices in a religious circle without finding out the circumstances surrounding the divorce.
  • Many victims of domestic violence are afraid that their children will hate or blame them if they choose to walk out of the  marriage(The Christian singer that died as a result of domestic violence from her husband)

Many people are reluctant to end violent marriages because they don’t want their partner to end up marrying someone else.