marriage box

Two lover birds, confidence of their selves, feel perfect for each other and desire to spend the rest of their days together, truthfully and committedly decided to get married, entering into an institute that gives you certificate before any examination - Marriage. My dear, in it there are courses without official lectures or lecturers; courses are not similar with other couples courses in the institute called Marriage. Marriage is spiritual, physical, mental and psychological.

WHAT IS YOUR MARRIAGE STANDING ON?

It is called a "Godly Marriage” when the two start and finish together with God and fruit to show for it. When divorce is involved it’s no longer a godly marriage. When separation is involved, it’s no longer a godly marriage. Barrenness shouldn't be an excuse for separation in a godly marriage, except the marriage is not godly initiated. When God is not involved in the foundation of a Marriage, that means, it can't be a godly marriage. it may be organized in the church but when God is not involved it can't end up as godly marriage, because the devil will take advantage of such marriage, and the devil only come to kill, to steal and to destroy, John 10:10. So, when God is not involved in a marriage, either initiated by parent, friends, wealth, sex, emotion, lust, money, pity or fantasy, as long as God is not involve, there’s possibility that it can’t stand because, it has no foundation in God, according to Psalm 11:3, “If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?” What is your marriage standing on?

CHALLENGES ARE NORMAL

I once heard a man talking about marriage being endured rathe than enjoyed, and I laughed. Can anyone please tell me what you’ve enjoyed without enduring first? Can there be enjoyment without endurance? You endured in your carrier before earning your certificate. That your marriage is ordained by the Lord doesn’t rule out the fact that, there will be challenges. No directives from God that doesn’t have its challenges. But God gave you the go ahead with that spouse of yours because He created in you the ability to handle the challenges in that person’s life. You have the ability to cope with his/her weaknesses. Inability to manage a marriage ordained by God is what leads to separation and divorce. The story of Isaac’s wife, Rebekah, is an example. After God’s direction, Abraham’s servant located Rebekah, and brought her home to her husband in Genesis 24. The same Rebekah sow the seed of discord between her children, by so doing, she transferred the blessings of Esau to Jacob, Genesis 27:5-18. With God’s will in your marriage, you still have your responsibility in bringing God’s plan for your marriage to pass. No marriage without challenges it just depend on how we are handling situation around it. So, you can't enjoy your godly marriage without enduring some challenges.

NO PERFECT HUMAN

No matter how audible or convincing the voice you heard before marrying your spouse, they can’t be perfect because God never created anybody to be perfect. He saw deficiencies in Adam that was why He created Eve, Genesis. 2:18-20

18 “And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”

19 “And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.” 

20 “And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.” 

 There are things you can’t do on your own that is why you needed that partner. He/she is not perfect but you two can create a perfect and godly marriage if you will be ready to make the home work. Everything needed to build a Godly marriage are in us but ego is the pest that kills those ingredients in us. So, your spouse’s imperfection may not be the reason for those challenges in your marriage. It may be your inability to accept and contribute your quota that is the problem.

MARRIAGE IS A TOOL

Marriage is meant to be a tool in the hand of God to fill the earth, Genesis 1:28, to create fellowship with God, like he had with the first marriage in the Garden of Eden, Genesis 3:8, and teach our children the way of the Lord, Genesis 18:17-19. When these aims are not achieved, it’s no more a Godly marriage in the eyes of our Lord. When your marriage is established in God it produces children that will give God glory. The world will be a better place. When your marriage is a residence for God you can’t do less to build your children to also build their marriage in the path of God. So, your marriage is part of the tools to make the world a better place. Adam and Eve marriage got a crack in it and the children follow suit- Cain killing his brother, Abel, and through this act, the wickedness of the world increased making God declared in Genesis 6:5-7, that it repented Him that He created the earth because of the wickedness in the heart of man, it all begins from Marriage. When your home ends in separation how do you want to train your children not to end up in the same way in their marriages? You can’t give what you don’t have; you can only produce what you have. How you build your marriage goes a long way in dictating how your children will build theirs also. Can God find your marriage to heal other marriages?

WAY OUT

How is your marriage, is it a godly marriage? If no, all you need do is to commit it to Him to make your marriage a godly marriage

Is God at the foundation or you’ve left God behind after you got His will for your life? Go back to Him, because, by strength shall no man prevail, 2 Samuel 2:9. You can’t build it without God. He gave you your spouse, He also know him/her more than you.

May be God was not involve initially? It’s time to invite Him into your marriage. Your marriage can still become a godly Marriage if you will hand it over to Him.

Are you separated from your spouse? It's not too to find redress, you just need to call God into the situation of your marriage, He can restore it back if you are ready to hand it over to God.

Are you about to enter into marriage without God’s involvement? Pause and seek for His leading, remember, you can do nothing without Him, John 15:5 says “I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.”

So therefore, Marriage is a Pandora box when God is not involve. A godly marriage will always stand in the means of all huddles. Seek His will concerning your marriage.