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Not minding how big and secured a door is, it will surely answer to a key. In the same vein, whether you are about to start a family, having a storm in yours, totally confused about yours, or enjoying it, the following are keys that create, rejuvenate, or sustain marital happiness.

It is the will of God that our marriage enjoys good things and the below keys bring fulfillment of God’s word unto us carefully if considered.

RESPECT: It is a pity that the only time some wives respect their husbands is when there are bills to be settled, also the only time some husbands respect their wives is when it's time for sex. This is wrong and against morality and spirituality. One of the dictionary meanings of respect is a good admiration of someone or something’s quality and opinion, invariably if you love your husband or wife you will RESPECT him or her Eph. 5.21-33. One clear truth that should be learned at home is respect, learn how to respect each other as spouses and your children will easily understand this virtue and we will build a habitable society.

REASONING OR TALKING WITH ONE ANOTHER: There is no difference between some homes and offices because the set of conversations that happen there are official. For instance, help me do this and that, call me when you need it, your food is there, don’t forget the PHCN bill, and so on. Such conversations only are not healthy for the family.

There is a dire need to create time to think and talk together about everything that is needed and can add to the home and such discussion must be every day. This does not mean a period of passing down instructions NO, there should be a period of thinking together between husband and wife.

REMOVING OR MANAGING DISTANCE: Thank God for development in the areas of telecommunication and medicine This has made courting, engagement, wedding, and even conception possible without the husband and wife having to be at the same place physically. It is only when we are perfect (not when we are still striving towards perfection) that there won’t be traces of human nature in us. Men are moved by what they see and women by touch, this implies that we need to be in touch with each other. If it is work that has kept your family apart, God will give you the grace to hold the fort in Jesus' name, please try all possible means to get the same or better employment close to where your spouse is, as this is best.

EVEN DEVELOPMENT: If in a family the husband and wife get married as NCE holders, the wife then goes ahead and acquires the following degrees, first, second, and third (PhD). It will take extra grace to avoid quarrels in the home because there will be differences in thinking, talking, perception, capacity, and understanding. If there will be any improvement that is strongly advocated, it should be balanced. It is when you wash a dirty palm with both palms that it becomes clean.

REKINDLED LOVE, There is a saying that you need twice the energy you used to start a thing to maintain or retain it. We all know how sweet it was when our love started, but it is rather unfortunate that we have allowed, age, in-laws' careers, children, and a host of other factors to dampen our love.

We have to rekindle our love at least following the same way we started our love, those things we did back then must not be jettisoned, and as such we must continually fuel the flame by doing those things that make the other person feel special and loved, treat her or him as the young lady or man you just met and will like to make him/her marry you and see the results.

We do hope that you have been ministered to via the keys aforementioned, may God make your home heaven on earth in Jesus' name, Amen it is more than saying amen start to work on it. NOTHING JUST HAPPENS.